Do you often find that you’re comparing yourself to others? Perhaps to a family member, a close friend, or someone famous on social media? If the answer is yes, then welcome to the club. The sad truth is that it’s the reality for too many of us.
Why do nobody ever accept their situations in life? When you listen to your friend who’s dating/married a guy about how complicated and annoying he is, you start thinking about your life and always saying, “Why can’t I find someone, yet? I want to find my own significant other. I want to settle in as she settles in.”
What’s even funnier, the fact is while you’re listening to their problems, your friend is thinking how amazing single life is and how you don’t worry about these kind of problems.
Social comparison starts at a very early age. Children discover very quickly that not everyone lives the same life or has the same opportunity as them. They see how some friends have more toys or better clothes, or live in nicer houses. As these children grow older and become teenagers, the comparing doesn’t stop. It often intensifies and turns into negative self-talk. Thoughts like “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t do anything right,” or “I’ll never make it” slowly start creeping into their minds. This kind of gloomy thinking causes them to develop anxiety and depression-like impulses, which may continue well into their adulthood years
It’s really sick that people actually think each person is living a better life than their own, seriously, people go through so much but they just don’t speak about it.
Why don’t we just appreciate what we have for once and stop looking at other people’s lives and instead, focus on our own life?
Comparison actually is what actually takes away happiness. You can never feel happy when you always feel like there’s something that you don’t have, that you lack something. Comparing yourself to others only makes your life difficult and brings you misery and pain. Instead, try using others as motivation to work harder and do better.
Comparison will actually sabotage your progress. It’ll drain your energy and happiness and instead of actually getting worked done, you’ll stay hours complaining about other people’s achievements. If you spend your days comparing yourself to other people’s achievements, you’ll never get anything accomplished. You must invest all your energy into pursuing your own dreams and goals. Don’t waste your precious time for something that’ll do you nothing but drain you.
You can’t physically change who you are. You are you. So, complaining about not having the perfect body or not having the perfect clear skin won’t do you any good. You’ll always be you. You’ll never be anyone else. And although it might be hard to believe for some of us, this is actually a good thing. As Jen Sincero says:
There will never be anyone exactly like you. You were given special gifts and talents to share with the world, and even though everybody has special gifts and talents, nobody will use theirs quite the same way you do. — Jen Sincero
No one has a perfect life. Although you might think that a lot of people are leading an amazing life with no down sides, know that this isn’t true. People are pretty good actors. You may see an Instagram picture of a couple looking so in love while in fact, they don’t speak to each other, they don’t even communicate. People like showing off that they’re living the best days of their lives while in fact, they’re the saddest people you could actually know. Don’t ever judge someone by how much followers, likes, comments or pictures they have. Judge them by what they actually have in their life. Every single person on this Earth experiences problems and challenges throughout their lives. No one is exempt from this. Some people are just better at keeping it together, at least on the outside. So next time you compare yourself to your friend or neighbor, remember that you probably do not know every detail about their life.
There will always be someone better than you in something. And you will always always be better than someone in something. It’s life. We complete one another. So the sooner you accept it, the happier you’ll be. Someone getting a better grade than you in a subject isn’t the end of the world; you’re doing your best and you’ll definitely do better than them in another subject. We all have different strengths and weaknesses. There will always be someone better than you at one point in your life. At some point in your life, someone will beat you to whatever it is you’re after. You can’t always win at everything in life. All you have to do is work hard and try your best, and whatever is meant to be will fall into place for you at the right moment. Just try your hardest, you can do it!
Start appreciating your life and everything you have because some people actually wish for half as much as you have!
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How to Handle Your Kids Being Stuck At Home
Since the major pandemic outbreak of the Coronavirus, many precautions were taken to ensure the safety of the entire population, or in better words, mankind.
To do so, schools as well as universities have been shut down for the time being and most probably for the foreseeable future. This has been every student and child’s dream. I mean who likes waking up early every single day to go learn things you don’t really care about?
Amidst this entire struggle, every child’s dream has become every mother’s worst nightmare. Since every entertainment venue has been shut off, the kid’s are struggling to keep their sanity at home. Which is why mother’s are discussing how the circumstances of COVID-19 has affected them let alone trying to find a way to control things.
The only things the kids are doing on daily basis is studying and proceeding with their education online or maybe even playing around a bit at home. That doesn’t deny the fact that the kids are going crazy having to stay at home, study, and being incapable of going outside. Mothers and kids have been finding it hard to cope with such matters.
Assistant professor at REU, Dr.Marwa Elagra, has shared with people how she struggled tremendously at first to cope with the matters at hand but most importantly how the kids have been suffering.
Not only can they not be affectionate with their mothers, especially the toddlers who have only made it to kindergarten, but also they’re running out of patience and things to do every single day.
She discusses various ways to keep your children busy by doing simple activities such as redecorating their rooms or maybe even the entire house. She also advises the families to be extremely patient with their kids and not to lash out because this quarantine is affecting the young one’s mental state pretty badly.
“Have more patience, support and encourage your kids to do more reading, and not only academic reading. Look at the positive side and make use of this long vacation in increasing the knowledge and skills of your kids,” she said
Show your kids how life used to be before technology and social media, show them how you used to live your lives by spending quality time with your family. You could go old school and enjoy games such as Charades or even Twister. How about maybe even learning a new instrument all together to encourage the kids even more? You could even teach them how to cook or bake their favorite treats.
There are so many things you could do but in order to find out what or where to start, parents need to have a calm mental state to help guide their kids through this, and most importantly, themselves as well.
Take the time to make them appreciate the time they’re spending at home with you by coming up with lots of fun cool ideas to keep doing. Be sure to merge both education and entertainment for them to truly benefit from these rough times by better preparing them for the future.
Saudi Arabia Sold Out All Masks Due to Coronavirus
It is no news now that the Coronavirus ( COVID – 19) is on the rise globally and is widely spreading at an alarming rate. Sadly enough, it’s beginning to reach the Arab world and is now considered a major threat, as Arab officials are trying to limit and contain the spread of the virus.
In Saudi Arabia, pharmacies have been struggling to meet the demands on face masks, as more and more people are buying them to protect themselves from the disease. The face masks stocks have been decreasing in a rapid way across the country , with some pharmacies even limiting the amount of face masks sold to people to 5 boxes each, as a way to keep their stock and give it to other people who are in need of them as well.
Although the Saudi ministry of health stated that there are no cases of corona reported. People are buying face masks in huge quantities and hoarding as much as they can, fearing that soon they would disappear from pharmacies; which is apparently happening , due to the large demand on them especially because of the Hajj and Umrah season, where the kingdom is filled with people from all around the globe; As people will be in close contact to one another and going to crowded areas ,which increases the risk of someone catching the virus and threatens the well- being of the country since the disease can spread easily.
The ministry of health also stated that there are various measures that are taken continuously in order to ensure that there are no cases of the virus in the kingdom, with them checking on every individual that is coming from a country that had an outbreak, and thoroughly taking the right actions to limit the amount of people who enter the kingdom whether it is for Hajj, Umrah or other reasons.