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Is It Easier To Forgive Or Forget?

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At some point in our lives, we have all struggled with the wrongs or perceived wrongs that others have done to us. And being unable to forgive someone is not without its costs. The emotional pain associated with such incidents can severely limit our ability to get on with our lives and plan for the future.

Yet it can be difficult to truly forgive. Our initial response may even be to seek revenge and to retaliate like for like. But according to recent psychological research, the better we are at controlling our thoughts and behaviour and not retaliating, the easier it is to forgive. Crucially, such control enables us to free ourselves of the pain and hurt that can imprison us in our past.

It really is easier to forgive and forget, according to a study which suggests forgiveness helps us suppress unwanted memories.

Forgiveness makes forgetting easier, according to a study which lends weight to the adage that it is best to do both.

Victims of a transgression are more likely to ignore the precise details of what happened if they have pardoned the mistake, psychologists found.

The abilities to overcome strong emotions against someone and to quash the memory of something we want to ignore are both linked to the same mechanisms in the brain.

Forgiveness may make it easier to intentionally forget unwanted memories, researchers said.

Forgive anyone that has caused you pain or harm. Keep in mind that forgiving is not for others. It is for you. Forgiving is not forgetting. It is remembering without anger. It frees up and refills your power, heals your body, mind and spirit. Forgiveness opens up a pathway to a new place of peace, where you can persist despite what has happened to you.

Forgiving someone is easy, but being able to trust them again is a totally different story. However, you don’t have to rebuild a relationship with everyone you have forgiven.

Dr Saima Noreen of the University of St Andrews, who led the study, said: “It is well established learning to forgive others can have positive benefits for an individual’s physical and mental health.”

“The ability to forget upsetting memories may provide an effective coping strategy that enables people to move on with their lives.” She stated.

However, previous research has suggested that excusing people who have hurt us could boost our health, with experiments showing that those who let go of their anger are less likely to experience spikes in blood pressure.

You can always forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. Each heartbreak you go through whether it’s from your partner, friend or a family member, it’ll always teach you a lesson that you’ll never forget.

Forgiveness; it’s not because they deserve it; it’s because you do. Sometimes forgiveness is all about loving yourself enough to move on.

It is definitely easier to forgive than it is to forget.

Try forgiving people, but that doesn’t mean you accept their behavior or trust them. Try forgiving people; so you can let go and move on with your life.

Nadia Haitham, who is a sixteen year old teenager, fantasizes and creates images in people’s minds using written words. She has always admired the idea of writing ever since she was a little girl with piggy tails and somehow, she’s chasing her dream! Nadia is currently an IGCSE student in The Continental School Of Cairo and she’s in the eleventh grade. They say Nadia is too young but she asks repeatedly, “if I don’t start now, then when?!” She blows her candles on the fifteenth of July, her zodiac sign is Cancer and she’s Egyptian. In 2015, she has written her first completed book that’s called, “Love Of A Teenage Girl” which is published on a writing website called, Wattpad. She has won several awards for the book which she’s planning to publish in the future. Nadia has also written a few other books and created quotes of her own but she hasn’t completed them yet but she’s planning to. She’s into music and learning something new every single day using the help of the social media world. She believes that writing is an underestimated art, it’s exactly like painting colorful images in people’s minds by using words of black and white.

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Saudi Rania Nashar Makes it to Forbes’ List of The World’s Top 100 Most Powerful Women”

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The Kingdom’s own Rania Nashar has made it to Forbes’ annual list of “The World’s Top 100 Most Powerful Women” and we can’t help but feel so much pride!

Nashar was ranked the 99th in the list that includes prominent names such as Angela Merkel, Kamaala Harris, Melinda Gates, Rihanna, & many other global female trailblazers.

Nashar is the first female to hold the position of CEO CEO of Saudi commercial bank, Samba Financial Group. She also made it to this ranking through her tremendous efforts in implementing changes that empower women of Saudi Arabia, all of which comes as part of the 2030 Vision.

Nashar has exceeded 20 years of experience in the field of commercial banking and has been inspiring young Saudi women to take on the challenge as well and break the glass ceiling and for that, we congratulate her.

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This Saudi Landmark Just Won a Prestigious Award for Its Innovative Architectural Design

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The King Abdullah Petroleum Studies and Research Center (KAPSARC) has received the American Concrete Institute (ACI) award for concrete construction excellence.

The building, which is designed by Zahra Hadid Architects (ZHA), is one of the most well-known landmarks in Riyadh. It’s known for its unique architectural design.

The structure features an hexagonal honeycomb structure which stands out with hexagonal cell openings providing shade from the harsh sun. “ZHA projects have always been unique and creative in an unprecedented, nontraditional way. There’s no other structure like it in the entire world,” Saudi architect Mokhtar Al Shoaibi told Arab News.

The building is made of extremely complex steel, said Saudi architect Mukhtar Al-Shoaibi.

“The contractor working on the job must have gone through so much to install the joints and then apply the sheets over it and now it acts as a monument in the Kingdom,” he told Arab News.

It’s also worth mentioning that KAPSARC won the title of ‘smartest building’ in Saudi Arabia from the Honeywell Smart Building Awards program.

“I’m proud to see Saudis accomplish that. There are many more major projects coming up in the Kingdom as well, and I can’t wait to see what they’ll present,” Mukhtar Al-Shoaibi said.

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Women’s Participation Rise 120% in Saudi Industries

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Women of Saudi Arabia are claiming their rightful role in private and government sectors, as these sectors strive to hire qualified women in different fields.

According to the Saudi Authority for Industrial Cities and Technical Zones (MODON), the number of Saudi women taking part in the industrial cities it oversees has seen a significant increase by around120 percent, bringing the total number of female workers 17,000 by the end of March this year.

Khalid Al-Salem, director general of MODON, said that the authority “has come a long way” and still aims at encouraging the female participation in the industrial sector.

“These oases host clean industries such as medical and food industries, rubber and high-tech industries, as well as prefabricated factories supporting women entrepreneurs and small and medium enterprises,” he said.

He said: “MODON seeks to support the productivity of women by providing an optimal environment for their work. Therefore, it signed a memorandum of understanding with a building development company to implement nursery and kindergarten programs in industrial cities and oases under the Ministry of Education’s guidance.” He added.

This strategy of activating the role of women in industrial development goes along with the Saudi Vision of 2020 that aim at enhancing women’s role in the Kingdom’s economy.

 

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