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Is It Easier To Forgive Or Forget?




At some point in our lives, we have all struggled with the wrongs or perceived wrongs that others have done to us. And being unable to forgive someone is not without its costs. The emotional pain associated with such incidents can severely limit our ability to get on with our lives and plan for the future.

Yet it can be difficult to truly forgive. Our initial response may even be to seek revenge and to retaliate like for like. But according to recent psychological research, the better we are at controlling our thoughts and behaviour and not retaliating, the easier it is to forgive. Crucially, such control enables us to free ourselves of the pain and hurt that can imprison us in our past.

It really is easier to forgive and forget, according to a study which suggests forgiveness helps us suppress unwanted memories.

Forgiveness makes forgetting easier, according to a study which lends weight to the adage that it is best to do both.

Victims of a transgression are more likely to ignore the precise details of what happened if they have pardoned the mistake, psychologists found.

The abilities to overcome strong emotions against someone and to quash the memory of something we want to ignore are both linked to the same mechanisms in the brain.

Forgiveness may make it easier to intentionally forget unwanted memories, researchers said.

Forgive anyone that has caused you pain or harm. Keep in mind that forgiving is not for others. It is for you. Forgiving is not forgetting. It is remembering without anger. It frees up and refills your power, heals your body, mind and spirit. Forgiveness opens up a pathway to a new place of peace, where you can persist despite what has happened to you.

Forgiving someone is easy, but being able to trust them again is a totally different story. However, you don’t have to rebuild a relationship with everyone you have forgiven.

Dr Saima Noreen of the University of St Andrews, who led the study, said: “It is well established learning to forgive others can have positive benefits for an individual’s physical and mental health.”

“The ability to forget upsetting memories may provide an effective coping strategy that enables people to move on with their lives.” She stated.

However, previous research has suggested that excusing people who have hurt us could boost our health, with experiments showing that those who let go of their anger are less likely to experience spikes in blood pressure.

You can always forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. Each heartbreak you go through whether it’s from your partner, friend or a family member, it’ll always teach you a lesson that you’ll never forget.

Forgiveness; it’s not because they deserve it; it’s because you do. Sometimes forgiveness is all about loving yourself enough to move on.

It is definitely easier to forgive than it is to forget.

Try forgiving people, but that doesn’t mean you accept their behavior or trust them. Try forgiving people; so you can let go and move on with your life.

Nadia Haitham, who is a sixteen year old teenager, fantasizes and creates images in people’s minds using written words. She has always admired the idea of writing ever since she was a little girl with piggy tails and somehow, she’s chasing her dream! Nadia is currently an IGCSE student in The Continental School Of Cairo and she’s in the eleventh grade. They say Nadia is too young but she asks repeatedly, “if I don’t start now, then when?!” She blows her candles on the fifteenth of July, her zodiac sign is Cancer and she’s Egyptian. In 2015, she has written her first completed book that’s called, “Love Of A Teenage Girl” which is published on a writing website called, Wattpad. She has won several awards for the book which she’s planning to publish in the future. Nadia has also written a few other books and created quotes of her own but she hasn’t completed them yet but she’s planning to. She’s into music and learning something new every single day using the help of the social media world. She believes that writing is an underestimated art, it’s exactly like painting colorful images in people’s minds by using words of black and white.

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AlUla Is Giving Its Residents a New Design and Feel to Their Homes




AlUla, one of the Kingdom’s most beautiful spots and a stunning heritage place, will not only be sharing its historic treasures with the world but will soon give residents a new design and feel to their homes.

Besides invigorating tourism, generating jobs and reviving the economy by drawing in thousands of tourists, the Royal Commission for AlUla (RCU) is now working towards enhancing the lives of residents by designing their homes as part of a major urban regeneration project for the historic Saudi location.

The AlUla Design Studio (UDS), launched by RCU, is a new public service that is working towards reshaping the future development of the local community.

“We’re driven by good design, good outcomes, by protecting our heritage, the environment, and by making sure that we create sustainable infrastructure,” Stephen Murray, chief of county zoning and planning at the RCU, told Arab News.

“We would like to be a model not only for Saudi Arabia but also the world (on) how you can design new places, live with the environment, be sustainable and protect it, but also open it to the world.” He added.

The RCU aims at promoting AlUla town as a model of urban planning, regeneration and quality of life in the Kingdom. The UDS initiative will provide residents of AlUla South with the chance to have an opinion in the property styles that suit their locality.

“One of the things we’ve looked at, at the royal commission, is creating great places to live, creating neighborhoods, places where people enjoy and the community can grow together,” said Murray.

We can’t wait to see the results of such a beautiful project.

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Saudi Arabia Is Calling Out Interns For The Giga-Project AMAALA




AMAALA is the Kingdom’s upscale giga-project luxurious travel and residential destination and it’s now looking to hire local talents for an opportunity to work on this remarkable project.

The Misk/AMAALA Corporate Internship Programme will hire 30 new interns by the end of June, after the graduation of the first batch of interns.

This is a great chance for young talents who are looking to boost their skills and train on ground, especially that this huge project will give them the opportunity to really grow their skills.

This falls under the 2030 Vision of the Kingdom in encouraging Saudi talents, this internship is bound to refine the youth’s expertise and prepare them to excel in leadership roles in new and various economic sectors.

The first batch, which was made up of 12 interns have rotated in all areas of the business for six months.

The new 30 interns will be introduced to a variety of roles across the organization in July and will have a strong chance to safeguard their career at Amaala. “AMAALA is committed to supporting and nurturing Saudi talent,” AMAALA CEO Nicholas Naples said.

“We are firmly focused on helping these young, ambitious minds reach their full potential. Investment in our youth is key to the success of our business, and our partnership with the Misk Foundation will help us to identify and recruit the leaders of tomorrow. Our collaboration with Misk will secure the future of the AMAALA workforce, and the future of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia for generations to come,” he added.

If you’re looking to be part of this once in a lifetime chance, then apply now to the Misk/AMAALA Corporate Internship Programme here.



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New Marriage Policies To Grant Women of Saudi Arabia More Rights




Saudi Arabia is still working towards achieving equality with focus on equalizing the legislation surrounding marriage contracts for women of the Kingdom.

According to several sources that were interviewed by the Kingdom’s daily newspaper Okaz, word has it that the Ministry of Justice is working towards amending new policies that will guarantee women’s right in marriage.

One of these amendments will include a new process that will have women reviewing and consenting contracts before finalizing. In an attempt to eliminate implications of coercion and to also consider the level of satisfaction afforded to brides-to-be, the new policies will grant women a greater sense of freedom.

Not only that, but the new policies will also ask women to explicitly state their contentment with their new prospective life partners, and and also grant them the chance to appoint a legal guardian throughout the process.

This is seen to be another great leap towards achieving the right women of Saudi Arabia deserve and ensure their involvement in the matters that affect their lives.

It also makes perfect sense to have them involved in what is considered to be the most important contract of their lives.


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