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Is It Easier To Forgive Or Forget?

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At some point in our lives, we have all struggled with the wrongs or perceived wrongs that others have done to us. And being unable to forgive someone is not without its costs. The emotional pain associated with such incidents can severely limit our ability to get on with our lives and plan for the future.

Yet it can be difficult to truly forgive. Our initial response may even be to seek revenge and to retaliate like for like. But according to recent psychological research, the better we are at controlling our thoughts and behaviour and not retaliating, the easier it is to forgive. Crucially, such control enables us to free ourselves of the pain and hurt that can imprison us in our past.

It really is easier to forgive and forget, according to a study which suggests forgiveness helps us suppress unwanted memories.

Forgiveness makes forgetting easier, according to a study which lends weight to the adage that it is best to do both.

Victims of a transgression are more likely to ignore the precise details of what happened if they have pardoned the mistake, psychologists found.

The abilities to overcome strong emotions against someone and to quash the memory of something we want to ignore are both linked to the same mechanisms in the brain.

Forgiveness may make it easier to intentionally forget unwanted memories, researchers said.

Forgive anyone that has caused you pain or harm. Keep in mind that forgiving is not for others. It is for you. Forgiving is not forgetting. It is remembering without anger. It frees up and refills your power, heals your body, mind and spirit. Forgiveness opens up a pathway to a new place of peace, where you can persist despite what has happened to you.

Forgiving someone is easy, but being able to trust them again is a totally different story. However, you don’t have to rebuild a relationship with everyone you have forgiven.

Dr Saima Noreen of the University of St Andrews, who led the study, said: “It is well established learning to forgive others can have positive benefits for an individual’s physical and mental health.”

“The ability to forget upsetting memories may provide an effective coping strategy that enables people to move on with their lives.” She stated.

However, previous research has suggested that excusing people who have hurt us could boost our health, with experiments showing that those who let go of their anger are less likely to experience spikes in blood pressure.

You can always forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. Each heartbreak you go through whether it’s from your partner, friend or a family member, it’ll always teach you a lesson that you’ll never forget.

Forgiveness; it’s not because they deserve it; it’s because you do. Sometimes forgiveness is all about loving yourself enough to move on.

It is definitely easier to forgive than it is to forget.

Try forgiving people, but that doesn’t mean you accept their behavior or trust them. Try forgiving people; so you can let go and move on with your life.

Nadia Haitham, who is a sixteen year old teenager, fantasizes and creates images in people’s minds using written words. She has always admired the idea of writing ever since she was a little girl with piggy tails and somehow, she’s chasing her dream! Nadia is currently an IGCSE student in The Continental School Of Cairo and she’s in the eleventh grade. They say Nadia is too young but she asks repeatedly, “if I don’t start now, then when?!” She blows her candles on the fifteenth of July, her zodiac sign is Cancer and she’s Egyptian. In 2015, she has written her first completed book that’s called, “Love Of A Teenage Girl” which is published on a writing website called, Wattpad. She has won several awards for the book which she’s planning to publish in the future. Nadia has also written a few other books and created quotes of her own but she hasn’t completed them yet but she’s planning to. She’s into music and learning something new every single day using the help of the social media world. She believes that writing is an underestimated art, it’s exactly like painting colorful images in people’s minds by using words of black and white.

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Saudi Students Can Now Study Abroad Without a Permit From their Guardians

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Saudi students can now travel abroad to study overseas without a need of a permit from their guardians, this includes students under the age of 21.

All the students need to travel is a proof of their scholarship from the Ministry of Education, Saudi Arabia’s General Directorate of Passports announced on Monday

This clarification comes after a number of reforms have been announced in a royal decree last month, first giving the right for every Saudi citizen to obtain a passport, for Saudi women to travel without permission from a male guardian and now this.

The royal decree has been certainly welcomed and found to be a huge step towards attaining the 2030 vision, that ensures a better quality of life for citizens.

 

 

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State news agency SPA reported on Tuesday that King Abdul Aziz Port (KAP) has given female crane operators their operating permits, making them Saudi Arabia’s very first females to take on such a job.

The female operators will work on the remote controlled cranes which are used in light of KAP’s attempt of introducing new technologies at its container terminals in all departments, the terminal is also the first of its kind to be operated by the International Ports Services Ltd (IPS).

KAP, supervised by the Saudi Ports Authority (MAWANI), handled 23 million tons of cargo in July – marking an 11.15% increase in comparison to the same time last year.

 

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Saudi Arabia Lifts Travel Restrictions on Women

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Saudi women no longer require a permission from a “male guardian” to travel or obtain a passport and can now travel independently, a royal decree signed by King Salman bin Abdulaziz indicated,

The decree, which was issued three days ago, clearly states that women like any other individual have the right of obtaining a passport, and that a guardian’s approval will only be needed for minors.

The statement of the decree is written in a gender-neutral way and doesn’t in any way put restrictions to a specific segment.

Here’s how some of the prominent Saudi figures reacted to the change, and their thoughts about it that was shared on twitter.

Also hailing the changes is of course Saudi ambassador to the US Reema bint Bandar Al Saud.

Ever since the Saudi Vision 2030 was launched and the Saudi authorities have been addressing the flaws in the system that stand against women living their lives freely and securely.

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