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El Tesht Ally: “Where’s Your Partner?”



Shower with your partner

What you are missing when not showering together after sex?

Remember the fun time you had as a child in the shower, playing with you duck toy and making soup bubbles? Did you ever think of reliving this experience with your loved one? And what it can add to your relationship if you hit the shower together after sex?

We asked a simple question: do Egyptian men/women like to shower with their partner after having sex? Why? 

Well, it was very hard to get people to answer, but this is what we got so far:

  N, a single lady in her 30s said: “I think women like it more because they want to continue enjoying the moment. But guys don’t care after they had sex”.

H, 36 years old, married for 5 years, said: “No, they don’t like it unless there will be action in the shower. Usually each showers separately after sex because both just want a fast shower and relax.”

M, 44 years old, married woman said”:”Note, the answer is relevant to at which decade of their marriage is the couple. Everything somehow alters with time. So, if we say they’re at the first couple of years of marriage then both would opt to shower together…now fast forward years and kids, etc. then most likely not by both. But Egyptian women like it more so than men. Men have a relentless appetite to the quirky stuff regardless of age.”

S, 38yearsold, lady, divorced two times said:”I don’t think so; it can be before sex not after, because they already got their needs during sex, so no need to shower together. There’s no point of it “

A, 54 years old, married man said: “often they like to shower together before sex because both are hot and up to do things, but after sex they have no power, no desire.”

A, 49 years old, divorced man said:” Well, It’s a matter of preferences. I can’t speak for others. I don’t mind at all … I find it to be an extension of the intimacy. But it all depends on the level of comfort between both partners. Sometimes there’s no shower after sex, or at least not immediately after. Instead there’s cuddling, more sex, or maybe a nap. What I found out from experience, is how sexually dysfunctional Egyptian men and women are. It’s complicated when it comes to intimacy and their own sexuality.”

M, 40 years old, married man said:” As an Egyptian I do, and I’m sure Egyptian women like shower after sex with their partners, but not men. Women consider it romantic, but for men it depends on the “mozza” i.e. how sexy is his partner.”

One psychiatrist said according to his observation on his patients that women tend to like these forms of physical relation more than men. Men from conservative background either religious or muscular tend to refuse such closeness, however they welcome it outside marriage relations.

So we found out that it’s very hard to get information on sexual or intimate behaviors either from people or from scientific studies on the subject in Egypt. Hence, there is a great lack of understanding of our sexual and emotional needs. But, have you ever thought about what you are missing when not showering with your partner after sex?

A perfect completion

Why not celebrate after a glorious moment in bed? Showering together after orgasm can be the perfect completion of the sexual experience. Think of the mandatory 10 minutes post-sex cuddling time. It’s very important to complete the satisfaction for both partners. You can do it in the shower. If you feel the urge to run off to the shower to clean, which is normal, why not ask your partner to join before you head back to bed to rest.

It’s not about sex.

To hit the shower together after sex has beyond aspects; it extends intimacy. Intimacy is not a synonym for sexual.  True, our society puts them together all the time, but that doesn’t make it so. Intimacy is a much deeper, when you allow yourself to open up and be yourself with your partner, you become more emotionally connected. You’ll discover together little intimate things like the touches, the kisses, the rubs, the gentle things that aren’t sexual in nature, but simply loving.

Breaking down barriers

Being naked together in the shower in bright light can be frightening at first, but will quickly begin to break down barriers.  It will help you trust your partner with your insecurities, and that increases the trust in your relationship overall. This bit of clean fun and exchange of pleasantries will likely soften your hearts toward each other.

A bonus for the day

It’s fun man! Besides, showering together after sex cools you body and relives stress, therefore it’s a very pleasant memory to take into your day. It makes your day a lot easier to face. Sometimes it can start things up again in the shower and you get another bonus!

Hence, we encourage both partners to sit down and discuss this. If the partner just voices it, the other one (usually has no idea) will probably take an action or at least think about it. Then you may sing together “ ya kharga men bab el 7amam”!

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